The Art of Blaming Others

So, this may seem like a large jump away from my last blog post but hopefully by the end you will see how they intertwine with each other (just!).

Blaming is a strange concept, some people do it to push it further away from themselves, others may do it purely out of spite and many people just do it because they want something to talk about and with pointing blame comes gossip. Attitude is so important, especially in a society that moves as quickly as the one we find ourselves in today. It is too easy to get caught up in most things, ranging from media hype about how a D Class ‘celebrity’ spilt a drink down their dress that consequently was made by another ‘celebrity’ (shock! horror!). I guess for many people it is easier to point fingers, shift the blame, let others sort the problem out and sit back and watch the show. It could be something as trivial as walking into a room at work or home to find there is a drinks stain on the carpet. You might be tempted to send out a ‘blame search party’ to find the culprit but that’s not going to solve anything, the drink has been spilt, you can’t skip back in time (unless you have Bernards’ watch) so be pro active, I’m sure you have two minutes spare, so clean it up, get it done, problem solved, no fuss.

It seems extremely important for some people to be able to blame others to the point where they haven’t accomplished what they have set out to do if they don’t FIND THE BASTARD THAT SPILT THAT DRINK!! Some enjoy going even further and attempt to blame other people for things that have nothing to do with themselves, not only can this aggravate situations even further, being your very own personal Hercule Poirot will in the end achieve nothing but put stress on yourself.

The ‘Art of Blaming Others’ and gossip go hand in hand, as attempting to find someone to blame, creates meaningless conversation containing details that may not be true. Is that not what gossip is? Some people take it to the extremes and revolve their own lives around attempting to point the blame and creating gossip out of this. I imagine a scenario where someone is drowning in a river, passers-by dive in, not to save the person but to ask them what happened, how it happened and who did this, just so they can go home at the end of the day, spend hours gossiping about it to their friends and family, safe in the knowledge that they know who was to blame for this next drama, they’ve attempted to associate themselves with.

So, just look at things with a different attitude, focus on your own life for a while, better yourself, overcome those personal challenges you have set yourself, take another step towards maturity, create your own story to tell.

The Lone Ranger

When people begin to think and wonder about travelling the world, one of the first things they begin to put into their plans is WHO they are going to travel with. For me this poses itself as a slight inconvenience and another element that you have to fit into an already busy and usually difficult process of planning 1) Where you want to go 2) How long you want to go for and 3) How you are going to get there. These three things don’t take into account other such things as accommodation and food (which you will no doubt have to split between how ever many people you are travelling with). I believe that you can get a lot more out of your trips away by saying goodbye to your friends from home for a few weeks/months and embarking on an ‘adventure’ all of your own; The Lone Ranger.

For me there are many benefits to travelling and seeing the world ‘on your own’ (using the term ‘on your own’ loosely as you’re anything but ‘on your own’) and one of these benefits is that you are able to do what YOU want to do without dragging the restrictions and pre conceived ideas from your acquaintances back home into the new experiences you are creating; which for me, makes them just that, totally pure new experiences for yourself. Maybe the title of this should be ‘The Selfish Ranger’, never mind.

Travelling on your own gives you the opportunity to push your boundaries even further than if you happened to be travelling with a friend/s, it will put you in situations which you will have to figure out yourself; given you a certain type of independence you don’t even experience for example when you first move away from home and live on your own. These challenges will more than likely be one offs, as you move from place to place. It could be something as simple as conversing with a local through a bad grasp of the language and hand gestures, querying where the train station is. But once you have solved this situation and got over the embarrassment of originally asking the local ‘Wie ist deine Mutter’ instead of ‘Wo ist der Bahnhof’, there will be a great sense of achievement (and relief). Yes if you brought a friend who was better at languages than you this situation would have been made a lot easier, but hey, it’s another challenge overcome, another step towards maturity, another story too tell.